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Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal?

Updated April 30, 2023 He just stopped breathing for 8 seconds… is that normal? She was breathing regularly, then started breathing really fast… is she okay? It’s completely normal to have these worries, as it’s frightening to see your little one stop breathing for any length of time. So how do we know what’s typical and when it’s time to call the doctor? We break it all down here in Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal?

Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal?
Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal? image credit: RTD Photography

Your newborn breaths differently than you! This is because up until birth,baby’s lungs were filled with amniotic fluid. They didn’t need to breathe on their own because oxygen was received from the placenta! Adapting to breathing breathing air instead of fluid happens right away of course but the lungs and airway passages are underdeveloped compared to an adults.

Normal breathing patterns for newborns can vary depending on their age, activity level, and sleep state but there are general guidelines to keep in mind.

Here’s a breakdown of normal newborn breathing patterns:

40-60 breaths per minute

You can assess your newborn’s breathing by looking at their abdomen. Your infant’s abdomen rises and falls with each breath.  The normal rate is 40-60 breaths per minute in the healthy, full-term infant (counted for a full minute), and will vary depending on whether she or he is sleeping, awake, active, or crying.  (More info in this study on UptoDate)

Apnea

A baby born preterm, or before 37 weeks gestation, is at risk for apnea. Apnea is a pause in breathing for more than 20 seconds. For any parent, this is a very long time! The good news is that pauses that are 5-10 seconds long are completely normal.  These short pauses also called periodic breathing is commonly seen in preterm infants.  After 15 seconds, the baby needs stimulation to resume breathing such as rubbing his or her back, arms, or legs, suggested in this article on KidsHealth.org.  If your baby is prone to Apnea, the hospital will monitor this closely and may prescribe an apnea monitor upon leaving the hospital so you will know if baby ever needs stimulation.

Skin Color and Newborn Breathing

Another good indication that your baby is breathing well is his or her skin color.

  • Pink skin = good perfusion of tissues = good breathing.
  • Blue hands, feet, and around the mouth are actually normal in newborn babies too.   This is called acrocyanosis and is often seen the first few days of life while newborns transition to life outside the womb.
  • Blue INSIDE the mouth is not normal and suggests that baby is not breathing well. 911 should be called immediately if this occurs at home. More on this below.
Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal
Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal?

Luckily, breathing issues will resolve on their own as your baby’s brain and spinal cord mature and muscle tone strengthens. You can help your baby breathe best by laying baby on his or her back on a firm, flat crib or bassinet to ensure baby’s airway is open.

Obligate Nose Breathing

Babies are obligate nose breathers which just means they breath through their nose primarily. This is because they ae born with relatively small nasal passages and underdeveloped lungs compared to adults. It’s important to keep the space around their faces clear and have a bulb syringe on hand to clear any congestion.

Most babies start to develop the ability to breathe through their mouth around 3-4 months of age, as their airways and lungs continue to mature. Like adults, they will still prefer to breathe through the nose.

What is Obligate Nose Breathing?

Respiratory Therapist Heidi Christianson, owner of LMS Idaho explains:

Respiratory Therapist Heidi C. explains what obligate nose breathing means.

Grunting and Noisy Breathing

Parents might surprised by how LOUD their babies can be! Newborns often make noises while breathing, including during sleep. Grunting, snorting, or whistling are perfectly normal. These noises are usually harmless and may be due to their small nasal passages. Grunting in particular may also be due to normal digestion. Remember that the hard work of eating, digesting and ultimately passing breastmilk or formula is new to your baby’s system.

Sometimes grunting can be a sign of gastroesophageal reflux (GER), a common condition where stomach acid flows back up into the esophagus and makes baby uncomfortable. If grunting is accompanied by spitting up, irritability, and poor weight gain and you’re concerned, contact your pediatrician.

Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal? – Respiratory Distress

Below are signs of respiratory distress that while rare, require immediate medical attention:

  • Rapid breathing – breathing faster than usual, taking more than 60 breaths per minute.
  • Flaring nostrils – Flared nostrils during breathing show that baby is working harder than normal to breathe.
  • Retractions – The skin between the ribs or under the ribcage may be sucked in with each breath.
  • Grunting – Sounds of grunting with each breath, instead if just once in a while.
  • Wheezing – Baby may consistently make a high-pitched whistling sound when they breathe.
  • Cyanosis – The baby’s skin, lips, or nails may turn blue or grayish in color. This is different than acrocyanosis which is temporary and normal as newborns circulatory systems adjust to life outside the womb.
    • A new presentation of cyanosis is a sign of low levels of oxygen in the blood. New cyanosis is serious.
    • Persistent cyanosis is a sign of an underlying medical problem.
  • Lethargy: Weak or unresponsive, with little energy to cry or move.

How to administer Choking First Aid to infants in an emergency.

Babies are born with relatively small nasal passages and underdeveloped lungs compared to adults. Overwhlemingly this is not cause for concern but parents and infant caregivers should always contact the child’s pediatrician if they’re concerned about baby’s health.

LMS night nurse Kathleen Hager, RN, BSN who specializes in perinatal care of preemies, twins & triplets contributed to this article.

Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers

updated- May 4, 2023 The cloth versus plastic diaper debate is not as clear cut as it seems. Plastic is known to be bad for the environment but cloth diapers while overall better for the environment do require more hot water to kill germs and adds to the mental load of parents. Written by postpartum doulas and night nannies, this blog Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers is overview of diapering options so parents can make the decision that works for them.

First things first-

We are all just doing our best! If you’re eco-conscious but cloth diapering seems like 1 more thing you can’t put on your plate, that’s okay! You can:

  • Try cloth diapering when the amount of diapers subsides a little or become more predictable.
  • You can use cloth diapers during the day and then disposables at night.
  • You can cloth diaper but keep a stash of disposables for grandparents, postpartum doulas or night nannies to use.

Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers – Which is Really the Best for the Environment?

There have been several recent studies comparing the environmental impact of cloth and disposable diapers, and while cloth diapers emerge as the winner, the results are often complex and depend on various factors. Here’s what we mean:

  • A 2019 study compared the environmental impact of cloth and disposable diapers in the United States. Cloth diapers have a lower environmental impact but only if they are washed in cold water and line-dried instead of using a dryer.
  • Overall, cloth diapers have less environmental impact, particularly because they do not take decades to break down. They may not be ethical if the family is not in a drought prone area and these are considerations for individual families.
Cloth diapers arranged in a circle with text,
Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers

Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers – FAQ’s

How Exactly Do I Cloth Diaper? 

Instead of one plastic disposable diaper, a cloth diaper is 2 parts. The reusable outer shell is on the outside and then a towel-like insert on the inside. The insert can be washed and reused again and again. Simply throw the insert in the wash and replace with a clean one the same way you throw the dirty diaper in the trash and replace with a new one.

The shell protects baby’s skin from waste and holds the insert. The insert actually absorbs and holds the urine/poo. After the insert is used you can place it in your diaper pail, but if it’s a “poo diaper” you’ll want to dispose of the actual waste in a toilet first. If you’re out and about or not near your home diaper pail, you can use a plastic diaper bag to hold the wet diaper until you get home to dispose of the waste and wash the insert. (Yes, it’s a *plastic* bag but that’s okay! As our friend Voltaire said, “Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good!”)

What’s a Hybrid Diaper?  

A hybrid diaper has a reusable shell just like a traditional cloth diaper system but uses disposable inserts, usually made of cotton. So you keep the shell but flush, throw away, – or if you have the time and room – compost the inserts. Unless you are composting, there is no need to “scrape” the diaper of its contents, you simply throw away the insert with the waste inside, just as you would a plastic diaper. Any cloth diaper brands can use the disposable inserts. 

Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers
Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers

Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable DiapersI have twins…what diapers should I use? 

Like anything, cloth diapering takes a little practice. Many twin parents find the cost savings of cloth diapering to be worth the learning curve. Think about it – twins use a minimum of 5,000 diapers per year!  One mom of 5 including a set of twins on Twiniversity has a tip. “The upfront cost is more, so I would suggest purchasing a small “stash” and trying it out for the period of time it would take to recoup the cost.”

What about Grandparents or Babysitters that Don’t Want to use the Cloth Diapers? And what if I change my mind?

If baby is going to stay with a caregiver who isn’t confident using cloth diapers, that’s okay! It’s also fine if you try it and don’t want to cloth diaper forever.  You can still be green by using biodegradable diapers. There are other planet friendly products such as organic diaper creams or reusable DIY wipes too! And if you are committed to one way of diapering, it’s FINE if you are able to do it your chosen way most of the time. Allow others to do what they are comfortable with.

Diapering is just like any other parenting choice. Cost, convenience, comfort and social responsibility can be taken into consideration. Whatever decision you make will be the right one for your family. 

For more info, our Amazon Shop contains everything you’ll need to make cloth diapering easy…and cute! Amazon.com/Shop/LetMommySleep

postpartum doulas know you can cloth diaper and use disposables!
Diapering doesn’t have to be all or nothing!

Gift Certificates for Night Nanny Service are Life Changing

What do new and expecting parents really want this holiday season? SLEEP! And not just in the funny “I need another cup of coffee” way, but in the truly helpful and healthy way. Let Mommy Sleep gift certificates for night nanny service are life changing. Not only will postpartum doula care help your loved ones receive the deep, restorative sleep that keeps them healthy, gift certificates are able to be used for baby care classes as well.

Gift certificates are available right now and emailed to the parents-to-be within minutes!

We did a quick image search for “postpartum” on the popular site for royalty free images, Unsplash. Here’s what popped up:

Yes, the stream of sad, drowning and depressed parents scrolls on almost endlessly. Not a smile in sight.

And yes, the postpartum phase is tiring and hard. It’s supposed to be. And did you know the postpartum phase is also one of the most vulnerable times in a human life…for both newborns and parents? Again, that makes sense as both a new baby and a new parent who never existed before are born. However, we’re not supposed to be crippled by exhaustion and insecurity. We’re not supposed to be depressed to the point of endangering ourselves and our family members. Of COURSE we’re supposed to have support during this time.

In addition to relief, expecting and new parents who receive the gift of a night nanny, night nurse or postpartum doula receive newborn care instruction. This means the also receive the gifts of:

  • confidence
  • peace of mind
  • a stronger immune system
  • a tool to battle postpartum depression
  • the ability to be present during the day for older kids and loved ones

Gift Certificates for Night Nanny Service are Life Changing so How Do They Work?

It’s very simple for a family to redeem their gift certificate. We typically need only 24-48 hours to schedule care. Once we know the nights to schedule we will send the family a postpartum doula, baby nurse (RN) or night nanny candidate for their consideration. This means they receive the newborn care provider or baby nurse’s photo, resume and full profile. The family is very welcome to say hello to their potential caregiver! Once the parents let us know that overnight care is a “go”, care is confirmed. It really is that easy!

So instead of the heartbreaking portrayal of new parenthood shown in the photos above, families who are properly rested and educated will look like these real life LMS families!

What Happens when the Night Nannies & Baby Nurses are Here?

Gift certificates can be used for in-home or and virtual baby care teaching but most parents-to-be redeem them for overnight newborn care. Overnight newborn care typically happens from 10pm- 7am. Here’s what you can expect to happen during this time:

  • breastfeeding support or baby uses bottle given by the caregiver
  • diaper changes, sheets and clothing changes
  • swaddling and soothing baby
  • documentation of baby’s care and direction to further resources if needed
  • clean, sterilize and prepare bottles and/ or breast pump so the family is ready to go the next day

During their downtime during the night, while baby is asleep, the team is documenting the night, getting ready for the next feeding cycle and tidying up. Any task related to care of the newborn or twins is appropriate to ask your caregiver to do.

One another note, as it is a protected title, Nurse refers to those who have received and are current holders of a state Nursing license. Let Mommy Sleep uses this title in the legal way when referring to Night Nurses or Baby Nurses. Registered Nurses (RN) and Licensed Practical Nurses (LPN) are available to visit families with health needs or for immediate postpartum visits to continue the level of hospital/birthing center care at home. They can also provide care when insurance dictates a Nurse provide newborn or medical care.

Gift Certificates for Night Nanny Service are Life Changing

Sleep certificates are good for a year and can be used for in home education or evening visits. If a family doesn’t want a whole overnight of care that’s okay, they can use the time for Baby Basics classes, sleep training or evening visits.

12 Ways to Soothe Baby

Your baby is fed, diaper is changed and none of the usual baby hold techniques are working to keep the fussiness away, so what else can you try? Here are 12 Ways to Soothe Baby with videos and explanations.

12 Ways to Soothe Baby – the top 5

1) White noise: The rhythmic, monotonous whooshing sound remind your baby of what it sounded like in the womb and covers up distracting noises by making one uniform sound. There are free white noise apps on your smartphone, but even the sound of a fan or a humidifier will work and of course your own gentle shhhhhh will work. Just make sure the noise is not too loud, and don’t shhh directly into baby’s ear. White noise can lull babies to sleep and help them stay asleep.

2) The OM Technique: Thank goodness for this guy who showed us all how powerful laying baby on your chest and chanting a low, slow ohm…ohm…ohm can be! The vibration and sound are soothing to baby, kind of a different version of white noise.

3) Exercise ball: Hold baby in either a cradle hold or up on your chest, sit on an exercise ball and gently bounce. 

4) Baby-wearing:  Babies, especially newborns love to be held constantly so a baby carrier or sling keeps your baby close while leaving your hands free. Our favorites are the Moby and the Baby Bjorn; your decision will depend on which is most comfortable for you. Babies can’t be spoiled by being held too much. Think about it…your child was literally inside another person for their whole life before being born!

5) Swaddling: Babies like to be tightly swaddled because it reminds them of being snug inside the womb. They also get relief from the reflexive motions that cause them to sometimes flail their arms and legs; they don’t have control over these so swaddling helps. If you want to learn to swaddle like a pro, watch 2 different techniques of here in our step-by-step demonstration YouTube.

12 Ways to Soothe Baby – 7 More!

6) Skin to skin contact:  Called “Kangaroo care” in the NICU, skin to skin not only calms babies, but helps them grow and develop. Get your baby down to her diaper, snuggle in close and get as much “skin to skin” contact as possible. It calms, reassures, and is great for bonding.

Skin to Skin is helpful for all babies (and parents!) of course, not just those born premature or with reasons to be in the NICU. A very cool study by the AAP shows that when done safely and in accordance with safe sleep guidelines, SSC decreases maternal stress and improves paternal perception of stress in their relationship. Additional benefits include, stabilized body temperature, glucose levels and reduced crying!

7) Take a bath with baby. Have you ever heard a veteran parent say, “If they’re crabby, put ’em in water!”? Taking a bath is a soothing experience for adults so why not baby too? First, test the temperature of the water. Then get in the tub and have baby lay chest to chest with you. Gently hold little one and relax. This is also a wonderful opportunity for breastfeeding or skin to skin contact

8) Try the “colic hold:”  To do the colic hold, you’ll lay baby tummy down and face out on your forearm and gently rock him back and forth. Pressure on baby’s tummy is soothing and may help relieve gas. Watch here!

9) Or try Dr. Hamilton’s The Hold: made famous by pediatrician Dr. Robert Hamilton where you lean baby forward, secure her arms and you slightly jiggle their bottom. (yes, really!)  Watch here for his personal demonstration.

10) Eyebrow strokes: Human instinct is to close our eyes when something comes close to them so gently stroking baby’s eyebrows with one finger can help them calm when they don’t yet have their own tools to relax. Demo from the Peaceful Sleeper here.

11) Massage. Massage can be a useful tool in calming your baby. Lay your little one on her back on a changing table or other flat surface. Gently massage the top and sides of her head, the face and jaw muscles, then the arms, tummy and legs. You can even combine soothing massage with laying baby on your legs or belly.

12) Turn down stimuli: It’s easy for us parents to overlook the daily barrage of lights and sounds we’re all accustomed to. Your newborn baby was in darkness for nine months; his nervous system is still immature and all these new stimuli can be overwhelming. Try turning off the TV and dimming the lights. Sometimes, bringing baby to his dark, quiet nursery will also help him relax.

Included in stimuli for babies and kids is blue light. Blue light is given off by tablets, smartphones, flat screen TV’s and laptops. Children’s eyes don’t filter this type of light as well as adults and the more light we’re exposed to at night, the less melatonin we produce. This affects sleep and natural rhythms.

12 Ways to Soothe Baby, techniques from the night nannies
Baby Soothing Techniques

But what if none of it works?

It’s important to remember that sometimes your baby will just cry. And you will feel frustrated. If baby is not hungry and not injured or in need of medical attention, and you feel like you might be reaching a breaking point while baby is crying, it is okay to place baby in a safe place like the crib and walk away for a few minutes.  If your infant is over 12 months old, it’s also okay to let them sleep with a favorite item that might help calm them as well. Before 12 months there should be no items in the crib because they may pose a safety risk.

The Period of Purple Crying is a real phase that babies go through when they cry more than any other time. Your baby will most likely go through it too. If you’re concerned, contact your child’s primary care physician. And if you’re worried about yourself or your partner, reach out to Postpartum Support International, because you’re not alone.

Are there other soothing techniques we missed here in 12 Ways to Soothe Baby? Let us know on IG or Facebook!

Postpartum Doulas holding baby girl while smiling
Newborn Caregivers are expert baby soothers!
Baby care shown by yellow lab puppy standing over adult lab
skin to skin care benefits babies and parents! You can’t spoil your baby with too much holding!

2023 Car Seat Laws

Car Seat Laws 2023, updated on April 2, 2023 – After analyzing over 10 years of vehicle crash data, the American Academy of Pediatrics has concluded: “The most dangerous thing that U.S. children do as part of daily life is ride in a car. Motor vehicle crashes remain the leading cause of death for children 4 years and older.”  2023 Car Seat Laws helps parents understand child passenger safety laws and recommendations.

2023 Car Seat Laws

What are the child passenger safety laws and recommendations?  

As of July 2019, 12 states have adopted this law: “Children are to ride in a rear-facing safety seat until the age of two or the child reaches the minimum weight limit for a forward-facing safety seat as prescribed by the manufacturer of the safety seat.”  The states are: Virginia, California, Connecticut, Nebraska, Nevada, New Jersey, New York, Oklahoma, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island and South Carolina. 

As of January 1, 2022 Nevada has also added the “rear facing til 2 years old” law for child passengers.

It’s important to remember that as of August 2018, the CDC now recommends that rear-facing child safety seats be used for infants and toddlers from ages 2 -4 years old.  For the best possible protection, infants and toddlers should be buckled in a rear-facing car seat, in the back seat, until they reach the maximum weight and/or height limits of their car seat. While not the law in every state, it is a national recommendation.

Which car seat is the safest?

According to SafeWise.com the best overall child carseat remains the Graco 4Ever Delux. This is because it is a 4 in 1 seat made to take children from infancy through age 10. The complete 2023 list is here however. Reading the manual and having the seat properly installed is just as important as safety ratings. Also remember it’s okay for infants to fall asleep in a car seat but it’s not okay for them to sleep in their carseat for long periods or overnight.

While car seats themselves are safe, it has been reported in many accidents that seats have been installed too loosely or at an incorrect angle. To be sure your seat is installed correctly, visit SafeKids.org to find a Certified Child Passenger Safety Technician. The website also lists inspection stations in your area.

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2022 Car Seat Laws by State

What about Uber or Lyft…can my baby ride? 

Uber and Lyft offer rides with actual carseats in New York City only. Drivers must pass special safety You must request “car seat mode” in each app. 2023 Car Seat Laws on Lyft’s website states that in NYC drivers are responsible for:

  • Safely installing and uninstalling car seats at the beginning and end of each ride
  • Taking the test on how to properly install and maintain car seat
  • Recognizing whether their car seat is in proper working condition

If you’re in any other city, you must use and install your own seat. The driver is not responsible for installing the seat. Of course, ride share services are bound by their states child passenger safety laws regardless of company policy.

2023 Car Seat Laws What if I’m traveling between states with my baby?  

Each state/jurisdiction has its own laws and it is the driver’s responsibility to know the laws in each state. Check your state and any state’s you plan to drive to below: 

2023 Car Seat Laws, Other Safety Considerations

  • Secure Your Belongings: Most of us spend lots of time in the car, especially if we’re the main transportation for our little ones. If you’re driving kids around, chances are your center console looks something like this:
car console filled with snacks, phone charger as potential projectiles
Secure your belongings when driving!

And even if you’re not driving kids, it’s not unusual to have snacks, a water bottle and a phone within arms reach. Secure your belongings in the console, glove compartment or other safe place in the vehicle when traveling. These items can become projectiles in an accident or even if you just stop short. This goes for mirrors and other loose items in the back seats.

  • Expect the Unexpected – Keep a small bag with essentials in the trunk. Extra diapers, water, formula if baby uses it, wipes and snacks for you too. This blog details what should be packed in a 72 hour emergency prep kit for infants if you want to follow FEMA and DHS recommendations. You never know when a traffic accident or other unforeseen event might cause you to have to stay on the road.
  • Seatbelts for Everyone – This is an obvious one but remember to have everyone buckle up before the car is in motion…even grown ups!
2023 Car Seat Laws by state