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What Should I ask a Night Nurse?

Newborns and their parents have different needs than families with older kids. Postpartum care, breast and bottle feeding and infant sleep safety are just a few of the areas that make overnight newborn care different. If you’re wondering, What Should I ask a Night Nurse? to find a great postpartum care, this blog is for you!

Question 1: Are you a Nurse?

The terms Night Nurse and Baby Nurse have been used for many years, but they are not always technically correct! Nurse is a legally protected term in most of the US and may only be used by Registered Nurses (RN) and Licensed Practical Nurses (LPN) or Licensed Vocational Nurses (LVN). Just like every tissue is not a “Kleenex” not every baby nurse is an RN or LPN! If you’re interviewing someone using this title, it’s a good idea to clarify their actual credentials.

Postpartum caregivers may use different titles such a postpartum doula, night nanny or newborn care provider. These terms are not protected and anyone can use them. While the spirit of care is the same, the level of education and focus can vary widely. However, all of these are non-medical caregivers. For example, a trained postpartum doula may be expected to prepare meals and provide care to older children, while a newborn caregiver may focus just on the baby. It’s good to clarify expectations before care begins.

Question 2: What’s Your Experience?

What Should I ask a Night Nurse?

Experience can look different in newborn baby care and it’s important to know that there’s no required state registry or requirements for newborn caregivers. We’ve compiled a list of basics that professional postpartum or newborn care providers should have:

  • First Aid and CPR Certification – this should also be a given for anyone in home health or child care. These expire after 2 years; an unexpired cert shows a commitment to understanding and practicing safety protocols.
  • Continuing Education Courses – Recommendations for baby care change over time, so continuing education is vital. Reputable agencies such as a daycare centers or online sources offer updated information in feeding, soothing and safety.
  • References – This is perhaps the most important question of all! Can you speak with multiple parents who can provide honest feedback? Are the references recent? And are the references excellent…or just okay?
What Should I ask a Night Nurse? Two Newborn caregivers smiling.
What Should I ask a Night Nurse?

Question 3: Do You Have a Background Check?

There is no single national database that contains all criminal records in the United States. Criminal records are maintained at the local, state, and federal levels by law enforcement agencies and each agency is responsible for maintaining and providing access to its own records, subject to applicable laws and regulations. (Source: FBI website) In other words, records from one state might not be shared with another.

While no background check is perfect, using a highly-rated background checking service along with references can give you a good picture of a caregiver’s character. If the night nanny has a clinical license, you can also investigate their history on the Board of Nursing.

Question 4: What are your care and feeding philosophies?

Hiring a night nurse or newborn caregiver whose values and philosophy match yours can make service a true partnership. Here are some things to think about:

  • Do you have specific opinions about infant sleep training? How about attachment parenting? Is it important that your caregiver have these same beliefs?
  • How about breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding? Are you a “fed is best” parent or do you prefer to have a lactation counselor who will on coach you through potential nursing challenges?

Having a postpartum caregiver who understands and supports your philosophy as a parent allows for consistency of care and ultimately the most comfortable relationship for your family. As a follow up, you may wish to ask your night nurse or doula to share soothing techniques for baby.  Someone who can explain many safe ways to comfort single babies, preemies and twins is not only demonstrating experience, but also shows that they are attentive and alert to babies’ needs.

5. Question 5: Are you vaccinated?

We know some folks have big, big feelings about vaccines. We get this but it’s important to note that babies 6 months and under are a vulnerable population due to their developing immune systems and inability to receive vaccinations. Because of this, caregivers should take basic precautions to protect vulnerable newborns and infants. (NIH, 2019 and AAP 2021).

In addition to the flu vaccine, it’s recommended that all postpartum doulas and newborn care providers have proof of Hepatitis B, MMR (Measles, Mumps and Rubella) and TDaP (Tetanus, Diphtheria and Pertussis, also known as Whooping Cough). These are the childhood vaccines we all receive.

There are so many wonderful newborn care providers out there and while references and background checks are the most important part of the interview, the peace of mind of safety, good health and demeanor can be what defines a great partnership for your family.  As we always say, someone may be an expert in babies, but you are the expert on your baby!

Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal?

Updated April 30, 2023 He just stopped breathing for 8 seconds… is that normal? She was breathing regularly, then started breathing really fast… is she okay? It’s completely normal to have these worries, as it’s frightening to see your little one stop breathing for any length of time. So how do we know what’s typical and when it’s time to call the doctor? We break it all down here in Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal?

Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal?
Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal? image credit: RTD Photography

Your newborn breaths differently than you! This is because up until birth,baby’s lungs were filled with amniotic fluid. They didn’t need to breathe on their own because oxygen was received from the placenta! Adapting to breathing breathing air instead of fluid happens right away of course but the lungs and airway passages are underdeveloped compared to an adults.

Normal breathing patterns for newborns can vary depending on their age, activity level, and sleep state but there are general guidelines to keep in mind.

Here’s a breakdown of normal newborn breathing patterns:

40-60 breaths per minute

You can assess your newborn’s breathing by looking at their abdomen. Your infant’s abdomen rises and falls with each breath.  The normal rate is 40-60 breaths per minute in the healthy, full-term infant (counted for a full minute), and will vary depending on whether she or he is sleeping, awake, active, or crying.  (More info in this study on UptoDate)

Apnea

A baby born preterm, or before 37 weeks gestation, is at risk for apnea. Apnea is a pause in breathing for more than 20 seconds. For any parent, this is a very long time! The good news is that pauses that are 5-10 seconds long are completely normal.  These short pauses also called periodic breathing is commonly seen in preterm infants.  After 15 seconds, the baby needs stimulation to resume breathing such as rubbing his or her back, arms, or legs, suggested in this article on KidsHealth.org.  If your baby is prone to Apnea, the hospital will monitor this closely and may prescribe an apnea monitor upon leaving the hospital so you will know if baby ever needs stimulation.

Skin Color and Newborn Breathing

Another good indication that your baby is breathing well is his or her skin color.

  • Pink skin = good perfusion of tissues = good breathing.
  • Blue hands, feet, and around the mouth are actually normal in newborn babies too.   This is called acrocyanosis and is often seen the first few days of life while newborns transition to life outside the womb.
  • Blue INSIDE the mouth is not normal and suggests that baby is not breathing well. 911 should be called immediately if this occurs at home. More on this below.
Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal
Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal?

Luckily, breathing issues will resolve on their own as your baby’s brain and spinal cord mature and muscle tone strengthens. You can help your baby breathe best by laying baby on his or her back on a firm, flat crib or bassinet to ensure baby’s airway is open.

Obligate Nose Breathing

Babies are obligate nose breathers which just means they breath through their nose primarily. This is because they ae born with relatively small nasal passages and underdeveloped lungs compared to adults. It’s important to keep the space around their faces clear and have a bulb syringe on hand to clear any congestion.

Most babies start to develop the ability to breathe through their mouth around 3-4 months of age, as their airways and lungs continue to mature. Like adults, they will still prefer to breathe through the nose.

What is Obligate Nose Breathing?

Respiratory Therapist Heidi Christianson, owner of LMS Idaho explains:

Respiratory Therapist Heidi C. explains what obligate nose breathing means.

Grunting and Noisy Breathing

Parents might surprised by how LOUD their babies can be! Newborns often make noises while breathing, including during sleep. Grunting, snorting, or whistling are perfectly normal. These noises are usually harmless and may be due to their small nasal passages. Grunting in particular may also be due to normal digestion. Remember that the hard work of eating, digesting and ultimately passing breastmilk or formula is new to your baby’s system.

Sometimes grunting can be a sign of gastroesophageal reflux (GER), a common condition where stomach acid flows back up into the esophagus and makes baby uncomfortable. If grunting is accompanied by spitting up, irritability, and poor weight gain and you’re concerned, contact your pediatrician.

Newborn Breathing Patterns: What’s Normal? – Respiratory Distress

Below are signs of respiratory distress that while rare, require immediate medical attention:

  • Rapid breathing – breathing faster than usual, taking more than 60 breaths per minute.
  • Flaring nostrils – Flared nostrils during breathing show that baby is working harder than normal to breathe.
  • Retractions – The skin between the ribs or under the ribcage may be sucked in with each breath.
  • Grunting – Sounds of grunting with each breath, instead if just once in a while.
  • Wheezing – Baby may consistently make a high-pitched whistling sound when they breathe.
  • Cyanosis – The baby’s skin, lips, or nails may turn blue or grayish in color. This is different than acrocyanosis which is temporary and normal as newborns circulatory systems adjust to life outside the womb.
    • A new presentation of cyanosis is a sign of low levels of oxygen in the blood. New cyanosis is serious.
    • Persistent cyanosis is a sign of an underlying medical problem.
  • Lethargy: Weak or unresponsive, with little energy to cry or move.

How to administer Choking First Aid to infants in an emergency.

Babies are born with relatively small nasal passages and underdeveloped lungs compared to adults. Overwhlemingly this is not cause for concern but parents and infant caregivers should always contact the child’s pediatrician if they’re concerned about baby’s health.

LMS night nurse Kathleen Hager, RN, BSN who specializes in perinatal care of preemies, twins & triplets contributed to this article.

Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers

updated- May 4, 2023 The cloth versus plastic diaper debate is not as clear cut as it seems. Plastic is known to be bad for the environment but cloth diapers while overall better for the environment do require more hot water to kill germs and adds to the mental load of parents. Written by postpartum doulas and night nannies, this blog Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers is overview of diapering options so parents can make the decision that works for them.

First things first-

We are all just doing our best! If you’re eco-conscious but cloth diapering seems like 1 more thing you can’t put on your plate, that’s okay! You can:

  • Try cloth diapering when the amount of diapers subsides a little or become more predictable.
  • You can use cloth diapers during the day and then disposables at night.
  • You can cloth diaper but keep a stash of disposables for grandparents, postpartum doulas or night nannies to use.

Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers – Which is Really the Best for the Environment?

There have been several recent studies comparing the environmental impact of cloth and disposable diapers, and while cloth diapers emerge as the winner, the results are often complex and depend on various factors. Here’s what we mean:

  • A 2019 study compared the environmental impact of cloth and disposable diapers in the United States. Cloth diapers have a lower environmental impact but only if they are washed in cold water and line-dried instead of using a dryer.
  • Overall, cloth diapers have less environmental impact, particularly because they do not take decades to break down. They may not be ethical if the family is not in a drought prone area and these are considerations for individual families.
Cloth diapers arranged in a circle with text,
Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers

Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers – FAQ’s

How Exactly Do I Cloth Diaper? 

Instead of one plastic disposable diaper, a cloth diaper is 2 parts. The reusable outer shell is on the outside and then a towel-like insert on the inside. The insert can be washed and reused again and again. Simply throw the insert in the wash and replace with a clean one the same way you throw the dirty diaper in the trash and replace with a new one.

The shell protects baby’s skin from waste and holds the insert. The insert actually absorbs and holds the urine/poo. After the insert is used you can place it in your diaper pail, but if it’s a “poo diaper” you’ll want to dispose of the actual waste in a toilet first. If you’re out and about or not near your home diaper pail, you can use a plastic diaper bag to hold the wet diaper until you get home to dispose of the waste and wash the insert. (Yes, it’s a *plastic* bag but that’s okay! As our friend Voltaire said, “Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good!”)

What’s a Hybrid Diaper?  

A hybrid diaper has a reusable shell just like a traditional cloth diaper system but uses disposable inserts, usually made of cotton. So you keep the shell but flush, throw away, – or if you have the time and room – compost the inserts. Unless you are composting, there is no need to “scrape” the diaper of its contents, you simply throw away the insert with the waste inside, just as you would a plastic diaper. Any cloth diaper brands can use the disposable inserts. 

Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers
Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable Diapers

Cloth, Hybrid and Biodegradable DiapersI have twins…what diapers should I use? 

Like anything, cloth diapering takes a little practice. Many twin parents find the cost savings of cloth diapering to be worth the learning curve. Think about it – twins use a minimum of 5,000 diapers per year!  One mom of 5 including a set of twins on Twiniversity has a tip. “The upfront cost is more, so I would suggest purchasing a small “stash” and trying it out for the period of time it would take to recoup the cost.”

What about Grandparents or Babysitters that Don’t Want to use the Cloth Diapers? And what if I change my mind?

If baby is going to stay with a caregiver who isn’t confident using cloth diapers, that’s okay! It’s also fine if you try it and don’t want to cloth diaper forever.  You can still be green by using biodegradable diapers. There are other planet friendly products such as organic diaper creams or reusable DIY wipes too! And if you are committed to one way of diapering, it’s FINE if you are able to do it your chosen way most of the time. Allow others to do what they are comfortable with.

Diapering is just like any other parenting choice. Cost, convenience, comfort and social responsibility can be taken into consideration. Whatever decision you make will be the right one for your family. 

For more info, our Amazon Shop contains everything you’ll need to make cloth diapering easy…and cute! Amazon.com/Shop/LetMommySleep

postpartum doulas know you can cloth diaper and use disposables!
Diapering doesn’t have to be all or nothing!

Gift Certificates for Night Nanny Service are Life Changing

What do new and expecting parents really want this holiday season? SLEEP! And not just in the funny “I need another cup of coffee” way, but in the truly helpful and healthy way. Let Mommy Sleep gift certificates for night nanny service are life changing. Not only will postpartum doula care help your loved ones receive the deep, restorative sleep that keeps them healthy, gift certificates are able to be used for baby care classes as well.

Gift certificates are available right now and emailed to the parents-to-be within minutes!

We did a quick image search for “postpartum” on the popular site for royalty free images, Unsplash. Here’s what popped up:

Yes, the stream of sad, drowning and depressed parents scrolls on almost endlessly. Not a smile in sight.

And yes, the postpartum phase is tiring and hard. It’s supposed to be. And did you know the postpartum phase is also one of the most vulnerable times in a human life…for both newborns and parents? Again, that makes sense as both a new baby and a new parent who never existed before are born. However, we’re not supposed to be crippled by exhaustion and insecurity. We’re not supposed to be depressed to the point of endangering ourselves and our family members. Of COURSE we’re supposed to have support during this time.

In addition to relief, expecting and new parents who receive the gift of a night nanny, night nurse or postpartum doula receive newborn care instruction. This means the also receive the gifts of:

  • confidence
  • peace of mind
  • a stronger immune system
  • a tool to battle postpartum depression
  • the ability to be present during the day for older kids and loved ones

Gift Certificates for Night Nanny Service are Life Changing so How Do They Work?

It’s very simple for a family to redeem their gift certificate. We typically need only 24-48 hours to schedule care. Once we know the nights to schedule we will send the family a postpartum doula, baby nurse (RN) or night nanny candidate for their consideration. This means they receive the newborn care provider or baby nurse’s photo, resume and full profile. The family is very welcome to say hello to their potential caregiver! Once the parents let us know that overnight care is a “go”, care is confirmed. It really is that easy!

So instead of the heartbreaking portrayal of new parenthood shown in the photos above, families who are properly rested and educated will look like these real life LMS families!

What Happens when the Night Nannies & Baby Nurses are Here?

Gift certificates can be used for in-home or and virtual baby care teaching but most parents-to-be redeem them for overnight newborn care. Overnight newborn care typically happens from 10pm- 7am. Here’s what you can expect to happen during this time:

  • breastfeeding support or baby uses bottle given by the caregiver
  • diaper changes, sheets and clothing changes
  • swaddling and soothing baby
  • documentation of baby’s care and direction to further resources if needed
  • clean, sterilize and prepare bottles and/ or breast pump so the family is ready to go the next day

During their downtime during the night, while baby is asleep, the team is documenting the night, getting ready for the next feeding cycle and tidying up. Any task related to care of the newborn or twins is appropriate to ask your caregiver to do.

One another note, as it is a protected title, Nurse refers to those who have received and are current holders of a state Nursing license. Let Mommy Sleep uses this title in the legal way when referring to Night Nurses or Baby Nurses. Registered Nurses (RN) and Licensed Practical Nurses (LPN) are available to visit families with health needs or for immediate postpartum visits to continue the level of hospital/birthing center care at home. They can also provide care when insurance dictates a Nurse provide newborn or medical care.

Gift Certificates for Night Nanny Service are Life Changing

Sleep certificates are good for a year and can be used for in home education or evening visits. If a family doesn’t want a whole overnight of care that’s okay, they can use the time for Baby Basics classes, sleep training or evening visits.

12 Ways to Soothe Baby

Your baby is fed, diaper is changed and none of the usual baby hold techniques are working to keep the fussiness away, so what else can you try? Here are 12 Ways to Soothe Baby with videos and explanations.

12 Ways to Soothe Baby – the top 5

1) White noise: The rhythmic, monotonous whooshing sound remind your baby of what it sounded like in the womb and covers up distracting noises by making one uniform sound. There are free white noise apps on your smartphone, but even the sound of a fan or a humidifier will work and of course your own gentle shhhhhh will work. Just make sure the noise is not too loud, and don’t shhh directly into baby’s ear. White noise can lull babies to sleep and help them stay asleep.

2) The OM Technique: Thank goodness for this guy who showed us all how powerful laying baby on your chest and chanting a low, slow ohm…ohm…ohm can be! The vibration and sound are soothing to baby, kind of a different version of white noise.

3) Exercise ball: Hold baby in either a cradle hold or up on your chest, sit on an exercise ball and gently bounce. 

4) Baby-wearing:  Babies, especially newborns love to be held constantly so a baby carrier or sling keeps your baby close while leaving your hands free. Our favorites are the Moby and the Baby Bjorn; your decision will depend on which is most comfortable for you. Babies can’t be spoiled by being held too much. Think about it…your child was literally inside another person for their whole life before being born!

5) Swaddling: Babies like to be tightly swaddled because it reminds them of being snug inside the womb. They also get relief from the reflexive motions that cause them to sometimes flail their arms and legs; they don’t have control over these so swaddling helps. If you want to learn to swaddle like a pro, watch 2 different techniques of here in our step-by-step demonstration YouTube.

12 Ways to Soothe Baby – 7 More!

6) Skin to skin contact:  Called “Kangaroo care” in the NICU, skin to skin not only calms babies, but helps them grow and develop. Get your baby down to her diaper, snuggle in close and get as much “skin to skin” contact as possible. It calms, reassures, and is great for bonding.

Skin to Skin is helpful for all babies (and parents!) of course, not just those born premature or with reasons to be in the NICU. A very cool study by the AAP shows that when done safely and in accordance with safe sleep guidelines, SSC decreases maternal stress and improves paternal perception of stress in their relationship. Additional benefits include, stabilized body temperature, glucose levels and reduced crying!

7) Take a bath with baby. Have you ever heard a veteran parent say, “If they’re crabby, put ’em in water!”? Taking a bath is a soothing experience for adults so why not baby too? First, test the temperature of the water. Then get in the tub and have baby lay chest to chest with you. Gently hold little one and relax. This is also a wonderful opportunity for breastfeeding or skin to skin contact

8) Try the “colic hold:”  To do the colic hold, you’ll lay baby tummy down and face out on your forearm and gently rock him back and forth. Pressure on baby’s tummy is soothing and may help relieve gas. Watch here!

9) Or try Dr. Hamilton’s The Hold: made famous by pediatrician Dr. Robert Hamilton where you lean baby forward, secure her arms and you slightly jiggle their bottom. (yes, really!)  Watch here for his personal demonstration.

10) Eyebrow strokes: Human instinct is to close our eyes when something comes close to them so gently stroking baby’s eyebrows with one finger can help them calm when they don’t yet have their own tools to relax. Demo from the Peaceful Sleeper here.

11) Massage. Massage can be a useful tool in calming your baby. Lay your little one on her back on a changing table or other flat surface. Gently massage the top and sides of her head, the face and jaw muscles, then the arms, tummy and legs. You can even combine soothing massage with laying baby on your legs or belly.

12) Turn down stimuli: It’s easy for us parents to overlook the daily barrage of lights and sounds we’re all accustomed to. Your newborn baby was in darkness for nine months; his nervous system is still immature and all these new stimuli can be overwhelming. Try turning off the TV and dimming the lights. Sometimes, bringing baby to his dark, quiet nursery will also help him relax.

Included in stimuli for babies and kids is blue light. Blue light is given off by tablets, smartphones, flat screen TV’s and laptops. Children’s eyes don’t filter this type of light as well as adults and the more light we’re exposed to at night, the less melatonin we produce. This affects sleep and natural rhythms.

12 Ways to Soothe Baby, techniques from the night nannies
Baby Soothing Techniques

But what if none of it works?

It’s important to remember that sometimes your baby will just cry. And you will feel frustrated. If baby is not hungry and not injured or in need of medical attention, and you feel like you might be reaching a breaking point while baby is crying, it is okay to place baby in a safe place like the crib and walk away for a few minutes.  If your infant is over 12 months old, it’s also okay to let them sleep with a favorite item that might help calm them as well. Before 12 months there should be no items in the crib because they may pose a safety risk.

The Period of Purple Crying is a real phase that babies go through when they cry more than any other time. Your baby will most likely go through it too. If you’re concerned, contact your child’s primary care physician. And if you’re worried about yourself or your partner, reach out to Postpartum Support International, because you’re not alone.

Are there other soothing techniques we missed here in 12 Ways to Soothe Baby? Let us know on IG or Facebook!

Postpartum Doulas holding baby girl while smiling
Newborn Caregivers are expert baby soothers!
Baby care shown by yellow lab puppy standing over adult lab
skin to skin care benefits babies and parents! You can’t spoil your baby with too much holding!