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Postpartum sleep deprivation and depression are directly linked. Research shows that consistent sleep blocks protect both parents’ mental health. Here are practical strategies to get more sleep and reduce your risk of postpartum depression, including how to divide overnight duties, build a support plan, and when to ask for help.

Sample Weekly Overnight Schedule for New Parents

How it works:

• Each parent gets a 5-hour uninterrupted sleep block every night
• On Sundays, one parent is completely off from all overnight duties; you will rotate each week
• The parent who is “on” handles all feeds, diaper changes, and soothing
• The parent who is “off” sleeps in a separate room if possible to avoid being woken.

Note for breastfeeding parents: If you’re breastfeeding, you do not get out of bed unless you want to. Non-breastfeeding parent brings baby to you, then when nursing is finished, they take baby to a separate are to do diaper changing, burping and soothing back to sleep. This gives breastfeeding parents 2-3 more hours of sleep per night.

The link between adults with sleep deprivation and postpartum depression has been proven over and over. According to the Sleep Research Society, women report “the highest levels of anxiety and depressive symptoms in early pregnancy and the lowest levels of social support.” Hormonal shifts are normal and expected after your newborn arrives but they should be monitored. This blog Sleep Deprivation and Postpartum Depression: Proven Tips to Help, describes actionable tips to increase your sleep and sleep quality.

Use these tips to keep normal post-baby mood shifts from elevating into depression.

More Than Mom: Depression Affects the Family

It’s important to note that the link between sleep and poor mental health outcomes affects not only the birthing mother, but the overall health of the family and community as well.

Here’s what we mean:

• Babies: Those experiencing postpartum depressive symptoms were less likely to place infants in safe sleeping positions. Additionally in the first 2 years of life, babies sleep patterns are affected by their mothers. Babies whose mothers slept less, also receive less sleep themselves, adversely affecting infant health.

• Partners: Sleep problems can also contribute to the transmission of depression within a couple and men can also experience Paternal PostNatal Depression. “Mothers’ and fathers’ depressive symptoms were correlated with each other…” Further depression is associated with more depressive symptoms for both partners at all three assessments.

• Family and Community: Accidents, specifically automobile accidents are also more likely due to drowsy driving. This is true for anyone who’s sleep deprived, not just new parents.

Sleep Deprivation and Postpartum Depression: Proven Tips to Help

Practice Good Sleep Hygiene…when you can!

Basic sleep hygiene is a great foundation for sleep for everyone. As a parent of a newborn, you may not be able to do all of these activities but try to include as many as possible into your day:

1. Be consistent: This is the hardest of course but when you can, go to bed at the same time each night and get up at the same time each morning.
2. Have a good set-up: your bedroom should be quiet, dark, relaxing, and at a comfortable temperature.
3. Remove electronic devices: Remove the temptation to watch TV, use a computer and scroll your phone. Blue light from tablets, phones and computers suppresses the production of melatonin. Melatonin is a natural hormone released in the evening to help you feel tired and ready for sleep.
4. Keep your diet in check: Avoid large meals, caffeine, and alcohol before bedtime.
5. Try to get exercise: Being physically active during the day can help you fall asleep more easily at night.

How to Switch Gears from Awake to Sleepy

For many of us, the feeling of being “on” as a new parent and the adrenaline that comes with it hinders our natural sleep cycles. So we can’t sleep when we’re supposed to because our bodies are trained to be on alert for baby’s needs. To help your brain switch gears into sleep mode, you can try mindful meditation like this:

1. Find a quiet area. Sit or lie down, depending on what feels most comfortable. Lying down is preferable at bedtime.
2. Close your eyes and breathe slowly. Inhale and exhale deeply. Focus on your breathing.
3. If a thought pops up, let it go and refocus on your breathing.

It’s okay if it’s hard to practice the steps above. You can also use a meditation app like Calm or Insight Timer that are free or low-cost. They can help your brain switch from alert to calm.

Divide and Conquer

This is the easiest and most effective way for both of you to get sleep! Make sure you dedicate times during the night, or even nights of the week where each of you receives uninterrupted blocks of sleep.

Here’s how:

Swap night time care duties with your partner – You can care for baby in shifts. Parent A is on from 9pm – whenever baby gets up overnight, then parent B is on from the end of that wake-up til morning. Better yet, do a 3 nights on/3 nights off schedule. You may miss your partner but remember this routine it is only temporary. You’ll lower your risk of postpartum depression and keep your immune system strong by getting blocks of deep, restorative sleep.

What if I’m Nursing?: Babies do the same things overnight that they do during the day, so splitting duties makes sense when breastfeeding. In other words, if you’re breastfeeding, keep your newborn in a bassinet next to the bed close so you stay in bed to nurse while your partner does the diaper changes and soothing back to sleep when you’re done nursing. You’ll still wake up to nurse but your partner will be the adult who is “on” for all other needs. After the first 6 weeks, when your infant naturally becomes much more wakeful, taking turns being “off” overnight becomes crucial as your baby will sometimes be up for hours at a time through the night.

Outsourcing– If your budget allows, hiring help to care for baby, clean your home or deliver groceries can be the difference between the ability to nap and the sleep deprivation. Here are some ways to make postpartum night doulas or night nurse service more affordable.

Have a Plan & Preps Before Baby Arrives

We’ve all heard that we should meal plan and try to outsource household tasks. And the reason we’ve all heard it is because it’s really great advice! Here is a detailed list of preps your first weeks home so you aren’t tempted to use sleep time on everyday tasks:

• Freeze your favorite ready-to-eat foods before baby arrives.
• Have a “go-to” list. Write down the top 5 items or tasks that need to be done consistently. Laundry, wiping down the counters, vacuuming, running to the store for food, diapers and wipes…whatever you might need. Then when a neighbor or friend asks what can I do?, hand them the task list and empower them to do what’s needed.
• If you have a toddler or older child, stash away a few surprises for them like a favorite treat or inexpensive toys. There will be a time when the newborn needs your attention, taking you away from your toddler. This is when you can whip out a special treat for the toddler to show them you’re always thinking of them even when you’re caring for their baby sibling.
• If you have trusted adults close by that can help, put them on a schedule. Knowing that Grandma always comes on Mondays for example, means you can predictably plan outings, appointments and down time.
• Have the tough conversation with your partner about who-does-what when your baby arrives. If you’re nursing it’s especially important that someone takes care of you while you take care of the baby.

Topics to talk through before baby arrives: Who will do household tasks? Is there family close by who can step in periodically? How will you divide overnight newborn care? Clear expectations of both partners at the beginning and then making adjustments down the road ensure that neither of you are carrying more than your fair share.

Why Does Postpartum Depression Feel Worse at Night?

Many parents report that anxiety and sadness intensify overnight when the house is quiet and there’s nothing to distract from intrusive thoughts. This is normal and has a physiological basis: melatonin shifts, hormonal fluctuations and exhaustion all peak overnight. The strategies in this post of dividing duties, getting uninterrupted sleep blocks, and having a plan are especially important for parents who notice their mood dipping after dark.More information

This article was presented by Let Mommy Sleep of Las Vegas at the Nevada Maternal and Child Health Coalition’s mental health symposium. IAnd if you’re having thoughts that scare you, call or text 988, or contact the National Maternal Health Hotline at 833-TLC-MAMA. It’s important to know that postpartum depression is always treatable.

If overnight newborn care would benefit you and your family, you can contact us here. Let Mommy Sleep night nannies and nurses are available on short-notice and for short-term engagements.